As a schoolchild grows up, parents have a lot of questions, some of them about the sexual development of their child. Not only behavior and mood change, mental and physical development increases. Puberty for boys and girls occurs at different times; for each case it is an individual process that begins with intensive growth.

What is puberty

The period from 10 to 16 years is a difficult time when members of the stronger sex experience adolescence. It may last less than the specified interval, and ends as unexpectedly as it began. Physiological changes during adolescence culminate in the body's ability to reproduce, when what was once a child turns into an adult man. In addition, radical changes are taking place in psychology, worldview, and attitude towards the world around us. For parents, adolescence is a global problem that takes years to overcome.

When does puberty begin in boys?

The answer to the question of how long adolescence lasts for boys is ambiguous and has its own individual characteristics. For some schoolchildren it begins at the age of 9, while others do not feel the first symptoms until the age of 11. The restructuring of the teenage body begins at the age of 10, and the post-pubertal period ends closer to 16 years. This transitional state begins with a hormonal surge. The boy is not aware of such changes, but they are obvious to everyone around him. Puberty occurs in several stages, each with different symptoms.

Physiological signs of puberty

A boy at the transitional age of 10 years old is growing rapidly and stretching out. Mom and dad may notice that his height has increased by 10-12 cm, this is not the limit. The voice begins to break, so sometimes it is very difficult to recognize the teenage interlocutor during a telephone conversation. Boys become wider in the shoulders, and the reason for this is active bone growth and increased muscle mass.

The transitional age in boys is complemented by sexual development and increased body hair. During this difficult period, many young men strive to grow a beard in order to look much older than their years and attract the attention of girls. A surge of hormones makes a guy nervous and irritable, and instability of the male central nervous system occurs. In this state, the teenager is characterized by symptoms of hyperactivity or, conversely, obvious signs of depression. This is how the son becomes a man, and adults must accept this.

Acne may appear on the face, and symptoms of acne cannot be ruled out. This is a temporary phenomenon that causes discomfort, internal self-doubt, and instills an inferiority complex. Among the external changes, it is worth adding manifestations of skin pigmentation, increased sweating due to increased work of the sebaceous glands. Hair can change its structure, and appears not only all over the body, but also in especially piquant places.

Psychological changes

During adolescence, boys are characterized by increased sensitivity and serious interest in representatives of the opposite sex. From now on, he experiences not only emotional, but also physical attraction, and strives to achieve the object of desire. This is how the first relationship begins, the beloved girl and the ardor of feelings appear. There is a complete misunderstanding in the family, and the boy may even leave home.

Puberty is a difficult time when teenage boys consider themselves too mature and may end up in dubious company. They are driven by curiosity and the desire to show themselves, their self. However, lack of life experience leads to enormous problems. The teenager and his parents play in pairs: he tries in every way to separate himself from them, and they return him to the family. The generational conflict is obvious; the transitional age for boys may be somewhat delayed.

What is important for parents to know

1. Boys just need to survive adolescence, especially since this unpleasant phenomenon will pass sooner or later anyway. Dad and mom should not only be wiser, but also show restraint, loyalty, maintain diplomatic relations in the family, and not let their child get out of control. One mistake - and adolescence can cross out adulthood.
2. During adolescence, a teenager experiences physical and emotional development, and a loss of voice is not the only sign of growing up. Productive sperm and rash actions can lead to early fatherhood. To prevent this from happening, adults should talk to their son, tell him about the principles and aspirations of adults, and become a role model.
3. When certain difficulties of adolescence are difficult for boys to overcome, it is necessary to take the help of a psychologist, but in no case should you put pressure on the teenager with your authority, life experience, or totalitarian position. If you find a common language in a timely manner, this difficult time will fly by for anxious parents in an instant.

Video: characteristics of adolescence

So, we have smoothly approached one of the difficult and important periods in a girl’s life -. This period begins at approximately 12-13 years of age and lasts until adulthood. At this time, a fully grown girl, when comparing herself with adults, can come to the conclusion that, in principle, there is practically no difference between her and adults. At the same time, the girl begins to feel like an adult, and will resolutely avoid her relationship with children. This is a special period and very difficult.

Despite all the apparent external maturity, the girl herself and those around her do not have the feeling that she is truly and fully grown, but at the same time, the girl has a great desire for those around her to recognize her adulthood. Scientists and psychologists describe this transitional age as a certain special interval between children's games and the serious, responsible actions and deeds of adults, and thus call this period “serious games.” Girls in adolescence look with disdain at children's games; they no longer want to deal with toys that were very close and beloved until recently. All her affairs that she undertakes are of a very serious nature, the girl’s intentions are also full of seriousness, but this is so far only to a certain limit.

However, in reality, everything that the girl does is not yet fully realized and carried out by her; she is only trying out new social roles for herself. Examples of such new actions and affairs can be relationships with the opposite sex and “love games” with flirting and coquetry, dreamy and romantic actions. During this period, girls may be no less superficial about choosing a future profession and preparing to enter educational institutions after school, as well as about playing any sports or participating in any events. Such types and patterns of behavior will be especially important for the development of the personality of a teenage girl, since in such situations she will learn many new qualities. She will learn to measure her desires and strengths, set goals and achieve them, establish relationships with various kinds of interests in order to understand what is truly interesting and important.

Features of health at this age

Puberty, or the process of a girl becoming a girl, is usually considered to begin with the appearance of her first menstruation. If earlier girls began menstruating at the age of 13-15 years, then today’s accelerated girls can begin menstruating as early as 11-12 years old. And if the girl is not prepared for this process, it will be stressful for her. If there is blood on the underwear, the girl may experience stress and be afraid to tell her mother about what happened, or she may simply begin to panic that she has some kind of illness. Therefore, mothers should take care of this in advance and tell their daughter that she is growing up and will soon have her period of menstruation, which will be accompanied by just such phenomena. It is important to explain this in detail, calmly and clearly, that this is a normal period of female maturation, and that it is worth rejoicing that the girl is becoming an adult.

Naturally, the girl will need to be taught how to use hygiene products and behave during menstruation so that they are as comfortable as possible for her. Regular menstruation may not be established immediately, and it will take about a year to a year and a half after the first menstruation until the cycle evens out. It is also important to tell the girl that the appearance of her first menstruation when her cycle is not yet established is an opportunity, albeit mostly theoretical, to become pregnant. Therefore, it is necessary to talk about sex life and contraception, as well as the moral and ethical consequences of early sexual intercourse. Modern girls grow up early, and accordingly, many of them begin their sex life also early, no matter how much we would like to believe them and think that they are just babies.

A normal menstrual cycle will be considered to be in length from 21 to 32-35 days, and the cycle is considered to be from the first day of menstruation to the first day of the next menstruation. Mom, at least at first, needs to carefully monitor the frequency of changing pads and the abundance and duration of the girl’s discharge; normal first periods can last up to seven to ten days, but then the cycle shortens to 3-6 days. It is also important to remember that recently established menstruation and the cycle may still be unstable, and they can easily go astray under the influence of unfavorable external and internal factors. A young girl’s period may not start on time due to climate change or stress, heavy loads and overwork, due to serious illnesses and hypothermia. Such delays in menstruation or earlier, untimely onset will not yet indicate the presence of any disorders in the field of reproductive health, but you still need to monitor this.

Special attention, moms!

It is important to pay attention to deviations in your daughter’s puberty and consult a doctor in the following cases. This is necessary if the first menstruation lasted less than three days or lasted more than 10 days; this requires contacting a gynecologist. The presence of bleeding with a decrease in hemoglobin and a disturbance in general well-being is especially dangerous; these are signs of inattention to reproductive health and serious abnormalities. It is also worth consulting a doctor if there are no periods at the age of 14-15 years or a break of more than 2-3 months after the first menstruation. It is completely wrong for women to think that irregular periods are not dangerous, and that after marriage and the birth of children everything will work out on its own. Such irregular cycles can be serious health problems and can lead to infertility.

If a girl has such complaints about pain in the lower abdomen (and in the absence of menstruation), which usually occurs during menstruation, a feeling of tension and discomfort in the living, it is also important to visit a gynecologist. Such complaints can result from anomalies in the development of the genitals with the opening in the hymen becoming overgrown, and then when blood accumulates, it may protrude outward due to tension and filling of the vagina with bloody discharge. In this case, it is important not to miss the moment, since stagnation of blood can lead to its outflow into the fallopian tubes and into the ovarian area of ​​the abdominal cavity. And then serious medical intervention will be required.

Also, menstruation in girls who are not sexually active can be somewhat painful due to the presence of the hymen, which can sometimes interfere with the normal flow of blood. Usually, after the start of sexual intercourse, such pain goes away. But if there is severe discomfort and pain, it is worth showing the girl to a gynecologist, and the doctor will be able to more accurately determine the causes of painful menstruation - this could be infantility and immaturity of the genital area, the presence of hormonal problems in the body, the presence of an infectious-inflammatory process, and even the presence of surgical pathologies. In addition, pain is possible due to not only pathologies, but also the presence of strong muscles in the internal organs (smooth muscles), if the girl actively plays a lot of sports or dances.

Features of girls of this age

Girls at this age are susceptible to stress, and, according to specialist research, acute or chronic stress can become a trigger for many disorders in the health of teenage girls. This may include painful menstruation, bleeding from the uterus, delayed menstruation until it stops completely (amenorrhea). Also, after a growth spurt has occurred during prepuberty, the girl’s body weight begins to increase due to the formation of fat deposits in the abdomen and thighs. This is a completely normal process of forming a feminine figure, which leads many girls to complexes - they consider themselves fat. Due to this, food restrictions are formed, and sudden weight loss at a given age can lead to metabolic and endocrine changes that are difficult to correct, developmental delays, and many diseases. It is important to remember that this type of fat deposits is medically called “puppy fat” and as you grow and mature, they gradually disappear, replaced by muscle and connective tissue.

A particular disorder in girls is caused by skin problems, which manifest themselves in excessive activity of the sebaceous or sweat glands, which gives an unpleasant odor of body sweat. Hair can quickly get dirty, and pimples and pustules can appear on the skin of the back, chest and face. During this period, you need to pay special attention to hygiene, as well as maintain the correct daily routine and diet. Due to such actions, you can significantly reduce the appearance of discomfort and hormonal imbalance. Usually, with the establishment of regular menstruation, all skin problems go away. Puberty itself ends at about 18 years of age.

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When a girl reaches puberty, parents begin to worry about how to survive their daughter's transition to 13 years old. During this period, the child may change beyond recognition.

Moms and dads are not always ready for the changes that await their children during adolescence. The body and psyche of a teenager transform very quickly. Parents sometimes feel that this is not the same child they raised and loved for so many years. This is already a stranger, a stranger.

The main mistake of most mothers and fathers is that they refuse to accept their grown-up daughter as she has become. It is especially painful for mothers to get used to a “new” person in the family. Having given birth to a daughter, a woman wants her girl to always remain small and defenseless. Mothers are jealous of their friends, believing that only they themselves can be close people to their daughters.

If parents want to maintain a good relationship with their teenage daughter, they should give up the desire to turn back time and force the girl to become small and dependent again. It is unacceptable to reproach a child for no longer being the same. You shouldn't blame him for changing.

What can parents expect?

You should mentally prepare for your child’s puberty in advance. One day parents may notice that:

• The opinions of friends for their thirteen-year-old daughter began to mean more than the opinions of mom and dad. The authority of peers for a teenager is very high. A daughter can spend much more time with her friends than next to her mother, who is always offended by such “betrayal.”
• My daughter has new tastes. Some new hobbies of teenagers shock parents. A child may start listening to the music of some alternative artist or want to get a piercing or tattoo.
• Their girl fell in love. Adolescence is the time of first love. The object of feelings often becomes classmates with whom the teenager spends most of his time. A thirteen-year-old girl in love is capable of the most desperate acts. The most dangerous cases are cases of unrequited love.

• The daughter changed her clothing style and behavior. During adolescence, girls tend to go to two extremes. Some want to become grown-up girls as soon as possible, wear high-heeled shoes and revealing dresses, get their nails done, and dye their hair. Other girls exhibit behavior typical of boys: they wear men's clothes, are rude, use profanity, and try to take part in a fight at the first opportunity. Over the past 2-3 decades, teenagers have increasingly become fascinated by youth subcultures such as emo or gothic. A girl’s wardrobe may contain a large number of black items with symbols of death.
• The daughter is interested in social networks. Excessiveness is observed among all modern humanity, regardless of age and country of residence. However, teenagers have much more time and opportunity to communicate through social networks than a working adult.
• My daughter has idols. The idols of teenage boys are usually athletes. Girls find idols among representatives of show business. Both a woman and a man for whom girls have unrequited feelings can become an idol. The presence of an idol often influences the choice of profession. Boys want to become famous football players, boxers, hockey players, etc. Girls dream of becoming a singer or actress. The child's choice does not always find the support of parents.

Danger to life

A girl smoking doesn't surprise anyone these days. Drinking alcohol by minors is not considered prohibited at all. An increasing number of teenagers are trying hard drugs.

My daughter went on a diet and began to lose weight dramatically. Parental persuasion usually does not help. Many girls, knowing how their relatives will react to their decision, go on a secret diet. At the table they eat the usual amount of food, and after eating they make themselves vomit in the toilet. Mom and dad are perplexed: the child is eating well, but at the same time melting before our eyes.

How to protect yourself from everything

Having noticed changes in their child, parents strive to immediately change it. Most of all, mothers and fathers fear for their daughters. The simplest and most accessible way to “protect” your daughter from a cruel world is to ban everything. However, this method not only will not solve the problem, but will also lead to its growth. A famous proverb states that the forbidden fruit is sweet. In adolescence, strict prohibitions do not give the desired result. The child is sure that his parents are behind the times, too old-fashioned, do not understand anything, etc. Do not be offended by such an opinion about yourself. Moreover, fathers and mothers should be glad that their child is changing. The lack of change should be alarming. This may indicate a delay in mental and possibly mental development.

Adequate reaction

You can react to your daughter’s behavior like this:

• There is nothing wrong with a girl spending more time with her friends than with her mother. An adult woman is unlikely to be interested in discussing guys, teen TV shows, popular music or school events. But these are the topics that girls most often talk about. At the same time, the daughter will not be interested in discussing with her mother her work colleagues, rising food prices and other typically feminine topics that are often the subject of conversations among married ladies. Parents should show an unobtrusive interest in the people with whom their children communicate, but at the same time not try to become part of the company. You can invite friends and girlfriends home for your daughter’s birthday. This is a good reason to get to know them better. If parents don't like someone in their daughter's company, they need to say so as delicately as possible. It is necessary to provide convincing arguments why the girl should not communicate with such a friend. In any case, the presence of company is much better than complete lack of contact with peers. A child should not become an outcast during adolescence.

• You shouldn’t have a sharply negative attitude towards your daughter’s new tastes. The conflict of tastes between two generations is quite common. Probably, today's mothers and fathers also once argued with their parents because they did not allow them to wear fashionable clothes or listen to the music that was popular during their youth. However, if the parents are categorically against tattoos, nose piercings, etc., their daughter should be informed about this. It is necessary to find a middle ground: avoid permissiveness and at the same time not ban everything.
• A teenager’s first feelings must be treated very carefully, especially if the daughter herself revealed her secret to her parents. Under no circumstances should you ridicule or scold a child or say that he is too young for such things. You can’t criticize someone your daughter loves. Teenage love rarely ends in something serious, much less a wedding. Not even a year will pass before the daughter will forget the guy without whom she cannot imagine life today. Modern teenagers strive for “adult” love by entering into. Not all girls really want this. But the desire not to become a “bluestocking” and the desire to keep the guy force the teenager to go against his principles. The daughter should be explained that early sexual intercourse is harmful for both her physical and mental development. The girl must understand that she is not obliged to do anything just to please someone. At the same time, your daughter needs to be told about means of protection against unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. We must give the choice to the child himself. Often teenagers commit illegal acts solely in defiance of their parents. If the forbidden fruit ceases to be such, interest in it quickly disappears.
• A change in clothing style and behavior is not direct evidence of the degradation of children. Girls are more scrupulous when it comes to choosing clothes than boys. They don’t want to look old-fashioned and fall behind their peers in some way. The desire to become part of a subculture is quite natural. Goths and emo in most cases are no different from their peers, who do not consider themselves to be part of any subculture. There is an opinion that strangely dressed boys and girls have suicidal tendencies and use drugs and alcohol in uncontrolled quantities. In fact, we're talking about about individual cases, not about the rule. A teenager is often driven by the desire to stand out from the crowd, to become different from everyone else, to feel unique.

• Until recently, the danger of social networks was that teenagers forgot about studying and damaged their eyesight by sitting in front of the monitor for hours. Today, communication sites have become a real danger. Teenagers thoughtlessly enter into dialogues with strangers, who often turn out to be attackers. Children are deceived into obtaining information about the family's financial situation. Pedophiles are also interested in communicating with teenagers. The criminal may ask the child to send him nude photos of himself, promising money for it. The teenager never receives the promised money, and the photograph gives the pedophile an opportunity to blackmail the child. You should also be wary of your daughter joining the so-called death groups, which have become widespread recently. In such groups, unknown attackers suggest that teenagers commit suicide. Parents should talk with their daughter as often as possible about the possible dangers that await her on social networks. You can register on the same website and communicate with your child while being far from home. The daughter will appreciate the “advancement” of mom and dad.
• The presence of an idol should also not frighten parents. During adolescence, children need guidelines. Instead of scolding your child for decorating his room with posters of his favorite musician or athlete, it is much better to familiarize yourself with the biography of the celebrity and understand why your daughter liked this person. Love for an idol can also be turned in a positive direction. If a girl likes a certain actress or singer, you should probably invite her to go to an acting or vocal studio. Some of today's celebrities became famous only because they imitated their idols as children. There is also a high probability that within 2-3 years the daughter will forget about her ideal.
• In order not to have to treat your daughter for any addiction, the prevention of bad habits should be dealt with from early childhood. First of all, parents should reconsider their behavior. A mother with a cigarette in her hands, telling her daughter about the dangers of smoking, looks unconvincing. If no one in the family has bad habits, the child will not consider Sunday gatherings of adults with alcohol to be the norm. The emphasis should be on a healthy lifestyle, and not on the word “no”. The more often a teenager is forbidden, the greater will be his desire to do something forbidden. The reason for starting to drink, smoke or take drugs may be the desire to keep up with peers. A cigarette or a bottle of beer becomes an indicator of adulthood or symbolizes the ability to cross established boundaries. The parents' task is to explain to their daughter: an adult is not someone who drinks and smokes. A mature person is distinguished by the ability to take responsibility for his actions and take his life seriously.

• In the struggle for their slimness, girls go to extreme measures. According to modern beauty canons, extra pounds are one of the most unpleasant cosmetic defects. A teenage girl can be encouraged to take up her favorite sport. The child must understand that this is the safest way to keep fit.

Parents often criticize their children. At the same time, fathers and mothers tend to forget that as children, they caused their families no less concern. A constructive dialogue with a child should begin with a self-critical attitude towards oneself.

In the modern world, the concept of “teenager” evokes associations of complexity, difficulty in communication, and incomprehensibility. It is difficult for adults to understand that, being in their youth, moving from childhood to adulthood (life period of 13-15 years), a teenager feels himself already grown up, essentially remaining a child. Remaining his confidant during this difficult period for a child is a great success, although it is incredibly difficult. To do this, you need to know about those features that appear at this stage of life and shape his personality. The main action of the immediate environment (parents and friends of the older generation) is to help and assist, in other words, to be attentive to him and communicate “in his language.” At this time, the young man is in a difficult period of life. He is forming his views and his opinion on any issue and concept.

Teenagers withdraw into themselves

It’s difficult for the people around you because it’s unbearably difficult for him to be with himself. He is not sure of anything. He is looking for his purpose in life, focusing only on his opinion.

Stages of growing up

During this time period of his life, a young man begins to gain a new awareness and motivation for his own behavior. Lead them meaningfully.

Psychologists often focus the attention of parents of children in adolescence on this conventional transitional fragment (from 14 to 16 years old) in connection with the changes occurring in them, both physiological and mental.

Because this period, called the stage of personal and professional self-determination, is the most difficult in life for a growing teenager - a boy or a girl.

The emotional sphere of adolescents and motivation

At this time, the child is forming his own individual personal position on all issues and situations. It often does not agree with the views and opinions of adults, including parents, on the same situation, which leads to conflict, which may result in a loss of mutual understanding and contact relationships between them.

Manifestations of psychological neoplasms in adolescents aged 14–16 years

In order to overcome this most difficult period of life less painfully for a family, it is necessary to understand the psychological new formations that arise in middle adolescence.

Depending on the development (maturation) of the child’s personality, neoplasms in adolescents can appear from the age of 13 and last until the age of 15.

There are several such neoplasms.

Problems communicating with peers increase sharply among teenagers

Switching your constant communication from teachers and parents to friends - classmates and peers, a little older, but who are an authority for a particular teenager. At this time, he develops skills in social interaction, that is, he learns to obey the opinions of others, but at the same time defending his rights. The consequence of this is the manifestation of two contradictions - belonging to a peer group and the desire for isolation, that is, having your own individual personal space.

Reluctance to listen to parents and teachers

Changes in the cognitive sphere of a teenager. Development framework 13 -15 years

The term “cognitive sphere” refers to the unification of all human cognitive processes. Such as attention and memory, intelligence and the development of logical and verbal-figurative thinking. In a special way, the accession and development of creative abilities occurs.

Manifestation of a phantom sense of adulthood

While still essentially a child, a teenager (usually 13-5 years old) feels and decides that he has already grown up. He develops and manifests with increasing frequency the desire to become independent from his parental family. He begins to conceive his first thought about his future profession. He strives to become “necessary,” that is, useful to society and family. And, of course, the emergence of a keen interest in the opposite sex.

Phantom adulthood in adolescents is manifested by prohibited actions

Possible occurrence of school maladjustment

The reason for this is ambiguous, usually complex, relationships with teachers or classmates.

Skills in developing communication and a teenager’s own individual personality position

With the onset of acute adolescence, especially the middle stage, in the life of a person aged 14-16 years, a reorientation occurs from intrafamily communication between the parent family and the child to external communication - friends, peers - classmates and older adolescents who are authorities.

Most often, at the age of 14, an individual chooses a guideline for himself - an ideal, which becomes a life example and a confidant for him. Such communication is basic at this age, as it is the main information channel. In addition, this is a specific type of emotional contact that develops a teenager’s sense of solidarity, self-esteem, emotional well-being and interpersonal relationships.

Under the influence of an idol, teenagers can change greatly

As a result of such contact, in order to be like his idol, a 14-year-old teenager can change appearance and style of communication with the people around him.

There is a change in tastes, an interest in energy and alcoholic drinks and smoking is manifested, since these are the qualities that he associates with adulthood.

Changes in the cognitive sphere of a teenager

During adolescence, especially at its middle stage, there is an improvement in intellectual processes and thinking, which is the basis for the formation of personality.

An activity approach is implemented in the growing up of a young person, under the influence of comprehensive school education, part of which is the development of elements of the cognitive sphere of the individual, that is, the functions of the teenager’s psyche.

Teenage absent-mindedness leads to learning problems

A process such as perception at this age acquires a selective character, with the possibility of analytical and critical conclusions.

1. Attention, during this period, acquires the ability to clearly switch and distribute. Its parameters also improve and develop: the volume increases and stability strengthens. It becomes arbitrary and controlled by the teenager himself. This indicates the emergence and manifestation of selective attention.
2. Memory also develops. It undergoes the same changes as attention - it acquires a fully meaningful character in terms of memorization and comprehension.
3. In parallel with the above-mentioned functions of the adolescent’s psyche, during the average period of growing up, 14–16 years, independent thinking develops. This allows the child to move on and operate with individual conclusions.

Psychological defense is expressed in behavioral disorders

Phantom feeling of adulthood

Professional psychologists note that against the backdrop of the developing cognitive sphere of the individual, a teenager has a desire to “be like an adult.” That is, he has a need to bear responsibility for a certain part (zone) of independently completed work.

At the same time, interest in people of the opposite sex awakens. The first platonic relationship arises between a boy and a girl, most often their age is 13–15 years. The first feeling of falling in love appears. There is a desire to please the person you like and to show constant concern for him.

At this age, teenagers experience their first love

Parents should take into account that excessive interference in this feeling and in this relationship can lead to a deterioration in mutual understanding between them and their child. As a result, cause him to become alienated and withdrawn. Parents are advised not to interfere with the development of these relationships, but also not to encourage them.

During this same period comes the desire to earn your first money on your own. The motivation is the desire to become financially independent, so as not to once again beg for funds for your personal needs from your parents and not to give them an account of where and how they were spent. This also includes motivation for socially useful activities, as a result, encouragement from authority and teenage peers.

In adolescence, many people try to earn their first money.

The emergence of school maladjustment

A family with a teenager aged 14-16 quite often faces such a manifestation as school maladjustment, that is, the inability to feel comfortable in a group of peers.

The reason for such a situation in a child’s life may be a breakdown in relationships (conflict) with teachers, classmates or older students, as a result of the teenager’s reluctance to obey their demands and tasks.

School maladaptation - main signs

Externally, school maladjustment is expressed in resistance and even complete refusal to attend classes. The child stops doing homework. There is a complete disruption in his educational activities. He tries to communicate with his family less often, trying to solve the problem on his own, which only makes it worse.

Parents should pay attention to the problem of their child (13 – 16 years old) through the signals described above and try to help him as soon as possible, after consulting with a psychologist, without showing him the child.

You can also involve a school psychologist in the problem by asking him to observe the behavior and reactions of the teenager. Based on the results of his observations, the specialist can offer a program of assistance in this particular case.