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Of course, to forgive or not to forgive cheating on your woman is the personal choice of every man. But I believe that female infidelity cannot be forgiven, and if this happened, the relationship should be put an end to. And do not think that I am so implacable and tough. I perfectly understand that every person has the right to make mistakes, and these mistakes must be forgiven. But female adultery is not a mistake, but a betrayal. By cheating on her husband, a woman soils both herself and her family in mud. And most importantly, a relationship with a woman who is cheating has no prospects for the future, so there is no point in continuing this relationship. And here are the reasons why:

1. The fact of female infidelity inflicts a deep psychological trauma on a man, and no matter how a man deceives himself that he forgot everything and forgave the traitor - this is not forgotten and is not forgiven. And if a man, for the sake of maintaining a relationship, begins to shove his resentment deep into himself and pretend that nothing has happened, then by doing so he will destroy his “I” and cause damage to his own psyche, which is fraught with nervous breakdowns, bursts of unmotivated aggression, the acquisition of various complexes and sexual disorders. And all because by forgiving betrayal, a man signs his own male insolvency, he seems to agree and resign himself to the fact that he is an inferior male who cannot win and win back his female from other males. Yes, of course, people are not animals, but in this case it does not change anything. For any man, as you know, there is nothing more painful than to suffer a sexual fiasco. And when cheating on her man, a woman, by her betrayal, first of all calls into question his sexual abilities.

2. A woman who has cheated on a man at least once is no longer his woman. And not only because the hands (and not only the hands) of another man touched her. The fact is that a woman who has cheated on you once will change more than once or twice, especially if she understands that impunity is guaranteed to her. And do not expect a woman to appreciate your generosity, repent and never repeat what she did. As soon as she realizes that you are so afraid of losing her that you are ready to forgive even betrayal, she will openly cheat on you with everyone she sees fit, even with your friends, and thereby turn you into a miserable laughingstock. As a result, your status as a cuckold will become known to all your friends and acquaintances, and you will finally lose their respect.

3. The reasons for women's infidelity are very different from the reasons for men's infidelity. A man may well love his wife, be an exemplary husband, and at the same time sometimes go to the side. In the case of a woman, this is out of the question. It's about the psychological differences between men and women. Men clearly distinguish between sex and feelings and know how not to confuse one with the other, while in a woman these two concepts are combined. The average woman will never cheat on her man if she loves and respects him. Normal women are characterized by elementary disgust, so they can only have close relationships with men who are at least a little sympathetic. The only exceptions are nymphomaniac women, who, due to their physiological and psychological characteristics, do not care who they sleep with. So, if your woman cheated on you, then she either does not love you, or she is a promiscuous nymphomaniac. It seems to me that any of these two options is unacceptable for a self-respecting man!

4. Only an initially weak man can come to terms with the role of a cuckold, and weak men, as you know, women despise and trample on. It is not for nothing that tough, domineering men often enjoy great success with women, while women, as a rule, do not appreciate soft and weak men and ignore them. So, as soon as you forgive your woman for cheating, she will stop not only loving you, but also respecting you, with all the ensuing consequences. Do not leave her - she will leave you herself, and leave you for a man who will treat her in such a way that she simply does not dare to change him.

5. A woman capable of betrayal is also capable of the lowest betrayal. She will set you up, leave you and exchange you for another in the most difficult moment of your life. Therefore, even if you do not have strong jealousy and think that betrayal is not a reason to destroy a family, still think: do you need a woman whose help and support you can never count on, if some kind of trouble happens to you, for example, serious illness or bankruptcy. Not to mention the fact that a woman who cheats on you with her lover may well become pregnant from him, and then pass off someone else's child as yours. Do you want to raise and educate other people's children?

6. Even if a woman who has committed adultery regrets her deed over time, it still won’t save your relationship from inevitable collapse. The fact is that, wanting to find an explanation and justification for her betrayal, she will certainly begin to look for those responsible for what happened, and since women are generally not very inclined to objective self-criticism, she will not blame herself for her own betrayal. And guess who? Of course, it's you! Do not hesitate, she will come up with a bunch of excuses for herself in order to calm her conscience, but she will remember all your “sins” and as a result will come to the “logical” conclusion that it was you who, by your behavior, pushed her to treason.

So many men, continuing to love the traitor, make a typical mistake: they try to sincerely forgive the betrayal and start the relationship from scratch, pretending that nothing happened. To some extent, these men can be understood: it is not easy to cross out an established relationship in one fell swoop and tear out of the heart the one that was most beloved and dear. In addition, men for the most part are slaves of habits and do not like to drastically change the established way of life. Therefore, some men try to hush everything up, hoping that what they think is an accidental incident will be forgotten and will never happen again. It seems to me that this shows the weakness of modern men, who, for the sake of maintaining life comfort and peace, are ready to deceive themselves. And one more aspect - male conceit. Many men sincerely consider themselves unique supermen and simply cannot admit that their woman can stop loving them and prefer another man to them.

Having learned about the betrayal of a loved one, we are completely sincerely perplexed and cannot understand how this can happen. “We were so good together, we loved each other so much, I did so much for her! How could she?!” the cuckold wails tearfully. And like this: if she changed, then she didn’t love so much!

As life experience shows, a man's stubborn unwillingness to break up with a woman who has cheated on him and a pathetic clinging to a relationship with her are just attempts to delay the inevitable end, which will come sooner or later anyway. Your family died at the moment when your woman decided to cheat - and the sooner you realize this, the better.

He who betrays once, betrays twice. So, if you have nothing against wearing branched horns for many years of marriage, then please wear it - this is your personal choice. Well, if you are not a miserable henpecked man, but a self-respecting man, quickly say goodbye to the traitor, no matter how painful it is for you. Believe me: you are quite worthy to have a faithful, loving and devoted life partner next to you!

So many reasons not to forgive and only one reason to forgive:
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Arkady Davidovich

Adultery has always been considered a great sin because it causes great pain and suffering to the partner and often leads to the breakdown of the marriage. This often affects children who are very sensitive to the divorce of their parents. In addition, even if the marriage does not break up, then betrayal kills the trust of the spouses in each other, which negatively affects their future life together. Therefore, treason is condemned in any society. But despite her condemnation, people, both men and women, both cheated and continue to cheat on each other. About why this happens and what to do if your partner, in our case a woman, cheated on you, we will talk in this article.

A woman's betrayal is always a strong blow to a man's ego. In most men, after such an act of a woman, self-esteem instantly drops, working capacity and activity decrease. However, female adultery has a number of negative consequences for the woman herself, which she often does not think about when she decides to cheat. First of all, this is a very bad reputation that a woman acquires in the eyes of men by cheating on her man, her husband. Also, by her act, she relieves a man of many obligations to her. For example, she relieves a man of the need to be faithful to her and take care of her in the way that he could do it, knowing that she was faithful to him. Of course, in different cases, different men have different attitudes towards the betrayal of their woman, but most often this attitude is extremely negative. Therefore, her betrayal can affect the future life of a woman in the most unfavorable way. Meanwhile, for men who are faced with female infidelity, I recommend that you remain calm and look for new opportunities in what happened, which, believe me, will help you greatly change your life for the better. Yes, yes, for the best. So if your wife, girlfriend, girlfriend cheated on you - you can not suffer and torment yourself. This act has its positive aspects, and I will tell you about them.

So, your woman, wife, girlfriend, girlfriend - cheated on you. And now you want to understand - what actually happened? Your thoughts are confused, cats are scratching at your soul, you cannot find a place for yourself, you are overwhelmed with a variety of negative feelings. All this prevents you from looking at what happened with a calm, reasonable eye, in order to decide what you should do next. And what happened, I believe, should have happened - your woman showed you what she is capable of. No matter what motivated a woman to cheat, below I will explain why women cheat, what pushes them to do so. The important thing is that your woman cannot resist her desire to enjoy being with another man in order to remain faithful to you. And in some cases, she doesn't want to. It shows you what kind of woman you are. And it's time for you to ask yourself - how does it suit you? And speaking even more thoroughly - you need to think about whether you deserve more, or do you have a woman who you yourself correspond to? I am not saying that you are a bad man who deserves to be cheated on. In no case. I only urge you to think about your own strengths and weaknesses and compare them with the strengths and weaknesses of your woman. This will allow you to make a more informed decision on what you should do - to forgive a woman for cheating, or to refuse it.

In general, I believe that female adultery should be treated philosophically. If a woman or wife cheated on you, this is an occasion for you to think about your life, and perhaps change something in it. What needs to be changed depends on what you want out of life. If your goal is to create a strong, friendly, reliable and prosperous family in which the spouses will be devoted to each other, then, of course, you need a reliable partner - a reliable woman whom you can trust. Therefore, if your wife is not capable of fidelity, you should part with her. Do not demand from a person what he is not capable of - just replace him. And if your whole life is a constant pursuit of pleasure, if family values ​​\u200b\u200bare alien to you, and you yourself are prone to treason, then think about whether it is worth worrying about your wife’s infidelity at all? Think about what you want from life, and it may turn out that the devotion of a woman is not so important to you. She cheated on you, but you, in turn, can also live a freer and fuller life, without any obligations to her.

Let's find out now - why do women cheat on men? It's all about female nature, which gives rise to a woman's need to be desired by men. A woman needs to be loved, to be paid attention to, to be admired, to be taken care of, and to be wanted. Therefore, a woman strives to be beautiful in order to attract the attention of men. Her task is to choose the best man and give birth to children from him. Therefore, her instinctive desires are aimed at satisfying this particular need. If a man by nature seeks to fertilize as many females as possible in order to ensure the survival of his species, then a woman, in turn, strives to seduce as many men as possible in order to choose the best, most worthy of them. Everything is very simple. It is our nature, our instinctive needs that drive us. And it's only our upbringing, our beliefs, and the culture we hold that stop some of us from committing adultery. You understand that society cannot be stable without condemning such acts, and our entire civilization will wallow in fornication and depravity, thereby destroying itself. But at the same time, we must never forget what needs are hidden within us. You can introduce any punishment for treason, up to the death penalty, but there will still be treason, because a person is prone to them, both men and women. People will cheat on each other if they are unable or unwilling to control their instinctual needs.

Therefore, dear men, if your woman, your wife, cheated on you, then this means that she simply could not cope with her nature, she went on about her instincts and gave free rein to her desires. You may not be to blame for this at all, so do not blame yourself for anything. Yes, there are cases when a man, by his behavior, pushes a woman to cheat, I won’t deny it. Every case is different, so I can't speak for everyone. But you must remember that women always strive to attract the attention of men, especially if they are beautiful, self-confident women, without complexes. Look how many married women strive to look beautiful, and some - defiantly beautiful, in order to attract the attention of men and thus feel their importance, feel their strength. Do they all have bad husbands? No. Husbands have absolutely nothing to do with it. It's all about the nature of a woman, who is what she is, if you don't inspire a woman in anything and don't limit her in anything. As, however, and men. So women will always be interested in men, even if they have husbands. And men will be interested in women, even if they have wives. Of course, there are instincts, but there is a mind that both women and men should listen to in order not to commit such acts that will cause pain and suffering to their partner. But a person is too weak to control himself constantly and in everything. Therefore, in some ways, he will certainly give slack.

So is the betrayal of a woman, wife, in this case, her mistake? Undoubtedly. If she loses more than she gains by following her instincts, then of course, her betrayal is a mistake. But, first of all, it is still her weakness. This is how a man, having a wonderful, loving, respecting wife-beauty, ready for anything for him, for some reason cheats on her with some nondescript girl, following the lead of his natural, and speaking in everyday language, dog instincts, thereby killing trust and self-respect, this is how a woman, without any logic, can go on about her female instincts and cheat on her man, completely undermining her confidence in herself and often destroying her family in this way, and with it her happiness. This is all a manifestation of unconscious, instinctive behavior, so it is useless to look for logic here - it's all about emotional desires that a person does not control with his mind. Rather, from the point of view of nature, there is logic here. It consists in the desire of women to attract the attention of men, and in another case, in the desire of men to get as many women as possible. All this is in the interests of nature in terms of the reproduction of the human population. So cheating is a natural human act. In some ways it is wrong, immoral, ugly, but natural. If a person is too weak to control his instinctive desires, he will change, betray, deceive, as soon as circumstances push him to this.

And in order to understand betrayal and possibly forgive it, you need to pay attention not to others, but to your own weaknesses and secret desires and feel their strength. Perhaps you, as a man, as a highly moral person, cannot imagine sex without love, you have never cheated on your woman, and therefore it is difficult for you to understand a person who can decide to cheat. In this case, pay attention to your other weaknesses - which make you not an ideal person, not an ideal man, not an ideal husband. Do you have them? I'm sure there is. Pay attention to them, feel their power, which affects your behavior and makes it imperfect, beyond the control of your mind. Feel what it's like to go on about your emotions and feelings, doing what, from the point of view of common sense, you don’t need to do, but you have to. And then, imagine that exactly the same forces act on those people who cheat on their spouses. And in particular, women can not cope with these forces and cheat on their man, for no logical reason. This will help you understand them. This will help you understand the reason for cheating, which may not affect your attitude towards such acts, but at least give you a better understanding of why people commit them.

There is another important point in female infidelity that you should be aware of. It concerns the age of a woman and her vision of her future. The older a woman becomes, the less attention men begin to pay to her, and the woman feels this, and it frightens her. Not every woman admits that she is afraid of growing old, not because old age is terrible in itself, but because she is afraid that men, including her own husband, will stop paying attention to her, stop being interested in her, stop want her. But this fear lives in a woman, so she is looking for opportunities to take more love and attention from life at a young age, while the demand from men for her is large enough. All these love adventures, intrigues, flirting - they all make a woman's life interesting and joyful. They allow her to feel alive, in demand, needed, desired. Often women do not need sex so much as relationships with other men, especially when their own husbands pay little attention to them. They need the attention of a man, they want to be looked after, to be loved, to be wanted. And sex often occurs at the initiative of a man, because it is they who need it more, while a woman needs emotions and feelings more. And the woman gives in - she goes for treason because she wants not only to take from the man what she needs, but also to give him something in return. At the same time, she can love her husband and her family, but emotions, feelings, instincts - it is sometimes very difficult for people to cope with them.

I do not justify women who cheated on their husbands, I just want to say that in each individual case, a woman can be understood. Perhaps she cannot be forgiven, and you, respected men, are not obliged to do this. But you can understand a woman. So not only the desire to have fun, but also fear pushes a woman to cheat. Put yourself in her place and think about how difficult it is sometimes to realize that today you have attention, and tomorrow it may not be there, even from your own husband, who may be interested in younger girls. A woman can understand this, or she can feel it instinctively, so she often faces a choice - to take the opportunity to experience new vivid feelings, or to miss them, while remaining faithful to her man. And you know, it is not always easy for a woman to make this choice, no matter how wonderful a man her husband is. The subconscious fear that in the future few people will need you, although this, of course, is not a fact, pushes a woman to insane, illogical actions from the point of view of men. But there is logic in them - you just need to understand what a woman feels when she starts a relationship on the side. And in order to understand the feelings of a woman, not being a woman, it is necessary to bring a woman to a sincere conversation, then she herself will tell you everything about her feelings. And since I have repeatedly managed to do this, I am telling you about what sometimes women themselves cannot tell, because they are not fully aware of the patterns of their behavior and the nature of their desires and feelings.

I think that understanding that a woman does not always consciously commit adultery, taking into account and evaluating all the consequences of her act, will help you, if not forgive, then at least understand your woman, seeing in her betrayal, first of all, weakness. Is it then possible to blame a man, a woman for her weakness? It's hard for me to answer this question. After all, there are many weak people, and everyone has their own weaknesses. We can blame people for greed, cowardice, laziness, envy and other negative qualities that are their weakness, but this does not stop them from being part of their nature. And I repeat, we are all weak in some way. So how can we blame other people for their weakness if we ourselves are not perfect? We may be disappointed that a man does not meet our requirements and does not justify our hopes, but he is what he is - a woman is what she is. If you can find a better one, no one bothers you to replace it. If you understand that weakness is characteristic of many people, including you, and you are not going to spend your life looking for exactly the one that will suit you in everything - I think you can accept the imperfection of this world, in the face of a woman who is imperfect in her behavior . But it all depends on how you treat yourself. If female adultery hits your pride hard, if you think that no woman has the right to instruct you in cuckolds, then you have only one way out - to leave this woman.

And if you want to stay with a woman who has cheated on you, a wife, if you love her, and she is dear to you, then accept her for who she is. If she loves you, she won’t betray you anymore, and if she doesn’t love you, then think about why and why do you love her? Maybe you don’t love her, but you’re just afraid of losing her, not imagining life without her. In this case, you need the help of a psychologist, because if you are emotionally dependent on a person who causes you suffering, you need to get rid of this addiction. Just don’t put your woman in a “golden cage” and limit her in every possible way, fearing that she will cheat on you again. Think for yourself, will this make your life better and you happier? Hardly. You can take possession of a woman's body, but you cannot take possession of her soul and heart without her desire. Therefore, there can be no talk of any love if a man constantly controls his woman and forbids everything to her. Love is born only in freedom, and fear and hatred are born in captivity. Therefore, it is better to give a woman freedom and let her live the way she wants, deciding for herself what suits you in her behavior and what does not. There are many people, many women - we can choose with whom we live. I am sure you will be able to evaluate all the pros and cons of your woman and make an acceptable choice for you - to forgive her for her betrayal, or not. The main thing that you must understand is that whatever choice you make, it will be the right one. You should not look at other people and their actions in similar situations - they have their own values, their own rules, their own vision of life and their attitude towards women, so their decisions should not affect yours. Think for yourself - what is best for you - to leave the woman who cheated on you, or to forgive her and stay with her.

In this regard, I do not recommend that you limit yourself to something - live life to the fullest and use all the opportunities that appear to you to make your life more interesting and enjoyable, regardless of your internal settings. And if you have a new relationship - do not give up on them, look at life more broadly and take everything you need from it. There are many women, and the nature of a man, as you remember, encourages him to give his attention to as many of them as possible. Therefore, if your woman, wife, did not appreciate your devotion to her, then she does not need her. Of course, I don’t know what value system you adhere to, but I know that you are a man, and you have certain desires that you can and that you need to realize in order to feel like a happier person. It's better than being heartbroken over female infidelity.

From my point of view, if a woman cheats on a man, then by her act she tells him - I relieve you of the obligation to be faithful to me, because I myself cannot be like that. Use this opportunity, if, of course, such a life suits you, and then you will feel much happier. But if you see that the betrayal of your woman, wife, is just a mistake that she regrets very much, think about forgiving her. After all, who knows, maybe someday you will not be able to keep yourself from some rash act, following the lead of your instincts, and then you will also regret what you have done, counting on forgiveness. And if you want to be forgiven, learn to forgive yourself. And betrayal, despite all its soreness, can be forgiven. You know, sometimes such an experience only strengthens the family if people draw the right conclusions from their mistakes.

No matter how painful the topic of betrayal is, unfortunately, the topic of betrayal has been and remains relevant at all times. Many men, having learned about the betrayal of their wives, wonder why she did it? That is why, in this article we will talk about such an important topic as cheating on your wife.

Consider this issue in detail in order to understand the main reasons that push a woman to cheat.

The main question or essence of female infidelity

As one well-known author said: "A man's betrayal is a matter of momentary weakness (in most cases), but a wife's betrayal is a whole story." And this is so, in fact, cheating among the two sexes is very different, and above all, differences in the very motive for cheating.

Each female betrayal is individual and has its own reasons. Let's look at the more common causes one by one to get to the bottom of it.

1. If a woman cheats on a man, then in 95% of cases the reason is that her own man does not satisfy her. And this sphere includes all relationships: both physical and financial and psychological. And this is precisely the essence of the complexity of understanding the causes of female infidelity. That is, if a man does not work, then this can push a woman to cheat, if he works a lot and does not provide psychological intimacy, attention, does not satisfy the woman's need for communication, then this can push a woman to find all this from another. Therefore, they say that there is no place for betrayal in a happy relationship. Why? Because when people are happy, it means that they are satisfied in all areas.
2. A bad attitude from a man is also a common reason for cheating. And it all starts with small misunderstandings. If a man constantly underestimates his woman, if he is rude to her, then such a relationship leads straight to the betrayal of his wife. After all, a woman can easily find a guy who will take care of her, provide signs of attention. In other words, he will give her what she does not get at home and what she needs so much.
3. No matter how strange it may sound, a wife's betrayal can be a simple cry, saying that she needs her husband's attention, wants him to hear her. After all, in a sense, it is the man who pushes his woman to betray: with his indifference. It is vital for women to feel wanted and loved. And when she does not feel this in a man, she looks for where she can "realize" herself.
4. A woman needs a man's shoulder and man's strength. And when her own husband is not a support for a woman, if a woman cannot rely on him, then this leads her to disappointment and betrayal.

If you look at these reasons, it becomes clear that cheating wife can be easily prevented. After all, it is enough to change your attitude towards her and she will not even have the thought of cheating.

How to recognize female infidelity

Regardless of gender, it is unpleasant for every person to be deceived and find out that he has been cheated on. Any betrayal affects a person, changing his whole life, regardless of gender. But there are differences in how the representatives of different sexes will react.

Women, having learned about the betrayal of their husband, begin to actively discuss it with their friends, even with neighbors, go into details and the like. While men, having convicted their wives of treason, do everything to hide this fact.

However, it often happens that men have doubts. And in this case, he can easily recognize his wife's infidelity, as there are certain signs that indicate infidelity. Below are the most common signs that a woman is cheating.

To find out if your wife is cheating on you, then you should first of all observe her behavior. Of course, the best conversation is to your liking, when the wife herself admits this to her husband. Since there is no room for conjecture and fantasy. But, unfortunately, if you look at the statistics, then only two percent of women admit to cheating. Therefore, you need to learn to recognize the signs of infidelity. Naive men mistakenly believe that the first sign of infidelity is a woman's mood swings. And when your wife's mood begins to change dramatically during the day, and if your wife becomes either joyful or sad, then men begin to have doubts. But in fact, in itself this is not a sign of infidelity, since the mood of women can change for any reason. So, consider these signs that tell you that your marital happiness is in jeopardy.

1. A woman changes, a dreamy expression appears in her eyes, and she herself becomes distant, mysterious and mysterious. When a woman cheats, then in the first place she already has another man and thoughts about him cannot but change her behavior, words and even her smile.
2. A change in image can also become a sign, especially for those women who previously did not particularly look after themselves. When a new man appears in a woman’s life, she begins to take care of herself and this cannot go unnoticed by her husband. If your wife suddenly starts going to the gym, fitness and is changing right before her eyes, then it’s time to think about who she is for trying so hard? After she loses weight and becomes fit, of course, she “will have to” update her wardrobe. And a new hairstyle, manicure, will definitely indicate that she desperately wants to impress her lover.
   
3. Irritability of a woman - when a woman gets tired of the routine of family affairs, she begins to look for adventures outside the home, and when she finds it, she is distracted from a new relationship in order to do household chores, her husband and children, it already becomes torture for her. This is where her irritability and unwillingness to go about her usual business come from. A woman begins to spend more time in solitude with her laptop or mobile phone. But there are also cases when a woman behaves the other way around: realizing and feeling guilty, she tries in every possible way to please her family, turning into a caring and friendly mother and wife. Many men are confused by this. They begin to think that everything is fine with them. But in fact, this is just an attempt to hide their betrayal.
4. The next wake-up call is the wife's phone, which is always with her, and social networks, messages are always hidden supposedly by accident. She changes passwords like in the social. networks, and on the phone, and all the time it will try to hide the phone.
   
5. Another sign that the wife is cheating on you is the frequent problems of her best friend, to whom she always has to run. Here the reservations can be very different, whether it is necessary to sit with the children of a friend, help her with housework and all that. Yes, and every day you hear about this friend, although in fact she may not even communicate with your wife. She just became an excuse for meeting with her lover. That is why, if you hear once again that she needs to help her friend out again, then you can just visit this very friend to put all the dots on the i.
6. The wife has more and more "things" at work that make her stay there longer than usual. Or at work, she begins frequent corporate parties, business trips, etc. In these cases, there is such a pattern: a woman comes home in a good mood, but her mood at home quickly deteriorates due to trifles. This item also includes all kinds of courses and trainings that she should attend.
7. When a woman begins to criticize you, compare you with others, naturally not in favor of her husband. And the very attitude towards you has changed dramatically, she no longer wants to spend time with you together as before. He is not interested in you, your work and does not talk about his affairs, work. Such a withdrawal is a clear sign that there is another man in your wife’s life with whom she shares everything. This can include the fact that a woman does not want to go somewhere with you: both relatives and friends. And even if her husband wants to meet her after work, she can find thousands of reasons not to let him do it.
8. When your wife, suddenly, no longer argues and asks to fix the door or the faucet. Believe me, this is not a reason for joy, because if she is no longer nervous about such trifles as scattered things around the apartment, an unrepaired faucet or handle, then she already has indifference to you. Unfortunately, most men do not understand this and do not perceive this sign as alarming.
9. Unanswered calls, and there are a lot of excuses here. And of course, these are just suggestions.
10. A woman cannot stand your gaze. Meeting her husband's gaze, she hurries to avoid it and gets angry.
11. One of the most obvious signs is the refusal and irritability of any bodily contact. Hugs, kisses or sex - it's all in the past. And when the husband begins to show his indignation, then he simply invites him to have a mistress. Yes, and sex itself (when it happens) is very different. A woman's behavior can be very different, she can offer to use sex toys, different roles, etc.
12. When a woman is not afraid to lose her husband, family, she does not seek to compromise, then you need to think about what's wrong.

These are the main symptoms by which you can easily recognize treason. And, as everyone can see, cheating changes relationships. And no woman can hide her behavior, no matter how hard she tries.

Thinking out loud

Change is something that changes a person's life. It affects all areas of his life, destroys the family, undermines trust and leaves a mark for life. It's very hard to trust people after you've been betrayed.

However, as we have already found out, you can learn about treason by special signs. Most importantly, remember that you will need patience so as not to prematurely blame your wife and start to sort things out with her.

Often a change in a wife's behavior is a signal that she is bored and wants something new. If your relationship with a woman is dear to you, having seen these signs in her behavior, you need to change the nature of the relationship, bring something new and bright to them.

Do not forget, a woman needs constant attention from a man, otherwise she will look for it elsewhere. And believe me, she will be able to find it if she wants to.

Registering their relationship, the happy bride and groom swear to each other in eternal love and fidelity. Probably, in an ideal world, all spouses would live a long and happy life without cheating and betrayal, but in reality, many have to put up with the fact that a husband or wife goes “to the left”.

Male infidelity is no longer considered something unusual, society often justifies them, although, of course, few will be able to live with such a husband. Women's betrayal, we have long been perceived as something out of the ordinary.

However, times are changing, and the number of women who have cheated on their husbands is increasing. According to the statistics of family psychologists, about half of all women cheat on their husbands, while according to official statistics, only about 25% of the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity admit to being unfaithful to their spouses. Why do wives cheat?

Psychology and nature of female infidelity

Despite the fact that both husbands and wives cheat, the reasons that push them to this reckless act are completely different. Let's analyze and figure out how male infidelity differs from female infidelity.

Psychology of infidelity on the part of a woman

Why do men cheat? Psychologists, especially those who support the teachings of Z. Freud, believe that the strong half of humanity cannot exist without adultery, as they obey the call of nature and try to impregnate as many individuals of the opposite sex as possible.

Women don't have that need. For her, the main thing is to choose the best father for her child in order to give birth to healthy offspring. Therefore, a girl rarely seeks to increase the number of men, but it is important for her that her chosen one be the best.

This is the crux of the problem. A girl can fall in love, and her chosen one seems to her the embodiment of masculinity. She invents a hero for herself, in which all the best qualities of a man are embodied: strength, activity, reliability, passion, and so on. But then she realizes she was wrong.

There are no ideal people. However, she strives to find one, and it does not matter that others consider her husband the best. It is not easy to please a woman. If the family does not have enough money, she dreams of a wealthy person. The one who bathes in luxury complains that her husband pays little attention to her.

And so it always is: the one who is close seems boring and not what he should be, and the one who is not with her is the best. After some time, she finds herself in the same bed with him. Most likely, a new disappointment awaits her, but for some time she believes that she has met the love of her life.

But there may be other reasons for change. We'll talk about this later.

The main differences between male and female infidelity

We figured out how male infidelity differs from female infidelity, but in order to summarize, we will write down the main differences point by point:

1. Love. To cheat on a wife, a husband does not have to fall in love with a new partner. Women only cheat on men if they have feelings for their lover. There must be at least sympathy.
2. Partner choice. A man is ready to seduce any girl if she seems attractive to him. The girls will look closely at the partner. First, they must make sure that it really suits them.
3. Development of a relationship. If a husband finds a mistress, he does not think about divorce. In the case of a wife's infidelity, everything is much more serious. He believes that someday he will be together with his lover, and can easily leave his family.

The most common causes of female infidelity

We figured out what is the nature of female infidelity, its psychology. However, many girls do not live, obeying only instincts. Nevertheless, a person knows how to control his behavior, especially if he received the right upbringing.

Why does a woman go for treason? Why is she ready to forget her moral principles and then suffer from remorse?

Psychologists identify many reasons that can push for treason:

1. Revenge. The husband cheated, and the wife decided to take revenge on him in a similar way. Or she is already tired of arguing with her husband, she does not like how he behaves with her, so she decided on such revenge.
2. Disappointment. The girl is used to the fact that her chosen one paid her a lot of attention. He tried to win her over, so he was caring, gentle, and after he achieved what he wanted, he stopped noticing her.
3. Incompatibility in bed. Spouses may have different temperaments. If the wife is passionate, loving, and her husband does not need frequent sex, she may think about going “to the left”.
4. Want to be desired. Every girl would like to remain the most beloved and desired. If she is not appreciated in marriage, she will find someone who will admire her.
5. Craving for new sensations. Often, living together destroys feelings. The wife managed to study her husband, she knows all his habits. And she wants something new in life, something that will make her days unforgettable. She needs new emotions, and in marriage she cannot get them.

1. Hasty marriage. The girl got married early. And now she needs to cook for her husband, take care of the household, children, and her friends at this time run on dates. And she also wants the same carefree life.
2. The desire to get the "forbidden fruit". The girl could have her own moral principles, but a person changes, reconsiders his views on life. And she can already afford cheating, as this is the taboo that she would like to break.
3. She wants to be modern. If all her friends, acquaintances run "to the left", she reads articles, watches programs that do not condemn such behavior, the wife is cheating on her husband, because she does not want to be a "black sheep" among her entourage.

We have listed some of the reasons for female infidelity, but this, of course, is not all. There are a lot of them. And each family has its own story, each girl has her own motives, it would be difficult to sort it all out, since it is impossible to subordinate feelings to some kind of strict logic.

How to prevent adultery on the part of a woman?

If a woman finds herself another man, it will be difficult to correct the situation. She will not want to stay with her husband if her relationship has become serious on her side. And not every man is able to accept a wife who has been in the arms of another.

Therefore, you should not go to extremes, it is better to work on relationships in marriage, to prevent betrayal, since an attempt to return to your old life may be unsuccessful. These tips are simple, they may seem banal to some, but it’s not in vain that they say that everything ingenious is simple.

1. Don't forget to make time for your wife. Yes, after work I want to spend time at the computer or TV. You can have a thousand things to do and hobbies, but put aside some of them and spend time with your spouse.
2. Become the closest person to her. If a spouse can talk with you about everything that worries her, share her experiences, feelings, she will not have a desire to look for someone on the side. Here, respect for a woman, for her interests, is also important, otherwise she will find someone else who will understand her or pretend that she understands.
3. Let off steam. This advice may seem strange, since for many it is a family without quarrels and scandals that seems ideal. But psychologists warn that then there is a high probability that the spouses are indifferent to each other. Therefore, there must be conflicts, pronounce grievances. Then they won't destroy your relationship.

1. Discuss your intimate life. If you live together, then you no longer have secrets from each other, so you can easily talk about your intimate life. Ask your wife if everything suits her.
2. Don't forget about mutual respect. Try to respect her feelings, don't do what she doesn't like. But ask her to make concessions to you and listen to your opinion.
3. Fight routine. If you have been living together for a long time, there is a desire to let everything take its course, and live the way you have to. But still, it is sometimes worth arranging pleasant surprises, organizing events for the family to make your life more interesting.
4. Don't be jealous. If a woman constantly hears her husband accusing her of cheating, although there is no reason for this, then sooner or later she will cheat on him. She will decide that it is pointless to prove something to you and it is easier to behave the way you expect from her.

Remember that for a woman, cheating on her spouse is not just a fun adventure, but most often a serious stressful situation. A woman does not change immediately, usually she decides to take this step not under the influence of suddenly surging feelings or desires, but after long experiences and unrest.

Therefore, if you understand the relationship in time, make her remember the feelings that she had for you, you can prevent betrayal and all its negative consequences.

What to do if the wife cheated?

What to do if there was still a betrayal, to forgive or not your spouse? It is difficult to answer this question, it all depends on the specific situation, on the relationship in marriage. Perhaps this betrayal, although painful for both spouses, will be a turning point in their lives.

If you no longer have a relationship, feelings have disappeared, then parting may be the best way out. But, even if you have made such a decision, it is still worth it to forgive a woman in order to free yourself from resentment and hatred, let go of this relationship and move on.

According to statistics, about 40% of men are ready to forgive infidelity (for women, this percentage is higher - 70%). But for those who decide to keep the relationship, it is important to understand that they will not be the same as before. You will have to build them again so that the situation does not happen again.

And, if you have already decided to be in a place again, forget about what happened to you, never reproach your spouse, do not blame her, otherwise all your attempts to build new trusting relationships will be unsuccessful.

Video: causes and signs of female infidelity and can it be forgiven?

Cheating ... just one word, but from what it means, women are able to lose control over themselves, peace of mind, faith in humanity and the meaning of life. Still, after all, the person to whom they entrusted themselves betrayed ... And it seems that the former world collapsed, and there was nothing to believe in. But no matter how sharply the representatives of the weaker sex react to male infidelity, they are not insured by their own - when she herself betrayed (or is this not considered a betrayal?) A man, although she thought that she would never be able to commit such an act.

In fact, alas, female adultery is not such a rare phenomenon, it’s just that against the background of male infidelity that has already become commonplace, there is not much talk about it. One thing is clear - the attitude towards female infidelity is fundamentally different from the perception of male. When a representative of the fair sex is convicted of treason, she is immediately “written off” as having done something not only unworthy and unacceptable, but also not deserving of forgiveness.

The woman herself, as a rule, feels compassion and pity for her man, a sense of guilt before him, regret about what he did. After all, if betrayal was the beginning of another era in life, then it’s understandable, but what if you don’t want to lose your previous relationship? Will it be possible to save them after the betrayal? If the betrayal is forgiven, there will be a constant awareness of one’s own “fall” inside and this will interfere with normal life.

What to do? Cheating is always a search for a way out of some sharpened emotions and an internal unresolved conflict. With the exception of those cases where a woman lacks elementary concepts of morality and fidelity (we will not consider these cases), betrayal cannot arise out of the blue. Even if you are drunk, your interlocutor has perfumed himself with something unimaginably delicious smelling, his voice and body beckon, and the atmosphere around is heated with passion and everything smells of romance. Loyalty lies in being able to resist when there are so many temptations around: in the absence of temptations, devotion would not be valued so highly. All these circumstances - appearance, charisma, etc. - just pulled the trigger, which was already cocked. So why did this happen?

After a betrayal, a woman is not up to introspection, in a sense of anxiety and guilt, engaging in self-flagellation, she is not able to sensibly assess her act and discover its motives. And it is necessary to do this, at least in order to consider all possible options for further behavior, and not to chop off the shoulder. Almost no woman needs cheating as such - most often she needs change.

The psychology of female infidelity and its difference from male

From time immemorial, male adultery has been perceived as something more acceptable and forgivable than female. After all, often at the heart of male infidelity lies the primitive instinct of male reproduction. A man rarely considers an intimate relationship on the side of treason, for him it is just a physical need that he satisfied. For him, moral betrayal is much more important - when a mistress becomes an attractive woman for him, with whom he would like to have not only sexual relations. Then he begins to give his act the status of treason and suffer from it.

Men, having a mistress, do not plan to leave their families at all. For betrayal, it is not at all necessary for them to fall passionately in love with a partner, but even if feelings have arisen, a man will delay the decision to divorce for a long time. With whom to cheat, it’s also not very important for a man - of course, it should be a sexually attractive woman, but otherwise he doesn’t look closely at her for long - meaning her personality, emotions, etc.

But a woman can not treat treason just as a fleeting hobby in order to satisfy physiological needs. Going on a betrayal, she knows that it will turn everything upside down and that it will not be the same as before. A woman cannot choose a partner as easily and simply as a man: in addition to external attractiveness, a lover must be attractive to her as a person, and arrange her emotionally. She cannot continue to think that in the meantime nothing will change in the family - everything will change for herself, she will begin to consider her partner as a life partner, because she no longer sees him in her husband.

Naturally, we are talking about those cases when the idea of ​​​​treason was accepted by a woman through painful reflections, or she succumbed to temptation against the backdrop of problems with her man. We are not talking about those who sell themselves or throw themselves from one lover to another just for the sake of sensual gratification, or when the betrayal occurred as a result of strong alcohol intoxication.

Common causes of female infidelity

University of Colorado psychology professor Jennifer Harman argues that women usually do not cheat on partners for no reason. Yes, and men do not do this, we may object, there must always be a reason for treason. And this is true, but if the reasons for male infidelity may seem unconvincing and far-fetched to us, then a woman must definitely have a very good reason for her to “go to the left.”

Lack of attention and care from the husband

Most often, women cheat for this very reason. All day long the spouses are at work, and in the evening the woman also has the role of the keeper of the hearth - you need to cook, stroke, clean up, create comfort. And a tired husband either does not notice how she “spins”, or, taking it for granted, does not bother with words of gratitude. Strained conversations at dinner, irritability and withdrawal of the husband into himself - idle wallowing on the couch in front of the TV, computer games, a car, etc. - all this leads a woman to apathy, unwillingness to do anything for a loved one who is not able to appreciate, loss of a sense of self-worth. Spouses are moving away from each other more and more, but it is important for a woman to know that she is desired, needed, loved, to feel like a Woman, sensual, beautiful, tender. When she doesn’t get this at home, then the treacherous idea of ​​getting it on the side begins to work - her husband doesn’t pay any attention to her, and other men flirt with her, they will appreciate her.

An eye for an eye - treason in revenge

A woman, having learned about her husband's betrayal or suspecting him of her, can be at the mercy of her own resentment for a long time, and then find a way out for her in retribution with the same coin - connections on the side. Usually, having cheated on her husband once or twice, the thirst for revenge recedes, family life returns to a new direction for a woman, but men, as a rule, are severely disappointed when they learn about such a plan of revenge. It is known that they consider female adultery a matter much lower and unforgivable than their own.

Woman's sexual dissatisfaction

Problems in bed, insufficiently rich and varied, insipid sex life or its absence at all due to the failure of a man and other reasons - all this leads to the fact that a woman wants to satisfy her sexual needs on the side.

Love for another man

There is already a high probability that after such a betrayal the family will break up: this is a desperate step, the woman who makes it knows what she is doing and has already made her choice - in favor of her lover. But even if there is no more love, you need to respect your spouse and first part with him in order to make connections while being free.

Weak husband

A strong man who treats a woman condescendingly, like a child (where there is a need for this) and moderates her emotionality with his rationalism is the ideal of any representative of the weaker sex. But there are no ideals in life, and it often happens that the character of a man is weaker than that of a woman. And then she feels her impunity and begins to "twirl" her husband, checking how far she can go. If the spouse endures all the tricks, then the last "test" may be treason.

Frequent absence of husband

No matter how much a woman loves her husband, his too frequent absence causes a habit that he is not around all the time and she “seems to be” alone. She may lack a man's shoulder, and a new man who has appeared on the horizon, who, moreover, is not on the road, like a husband, but is constantly nearby, could become a good support. Moreover, women often deceive themselves, claiming that this is just a light flirtation that will not grow into anything more, but will distract in the absence of a husband.

Thirst for new sensations

The situation is quite common - at home everything is so “palled” and has become gray and everyday that a woman feels like she is bogged down in a quagmire of routine and grabs every opportunity to get out of it. Family life becomes predictable to the point of desperation and proceeds as if according to a schedule that can be continued for years to come. Tired of constant washing, ironing, borscht and school diaries, a woman

Can get carried away by a new man, falling out of the picture of tedious stability. With him, she feels young, desirable, and can afford not to think about dinner and family obligations. Sometimes it remains a one-time adventure, and sometimes it develops into a relationship and poses a choice.

Worthy of the best

This reason includes all of the above. Marriage seems to be a burden for a woman, but she also feels sorry for divorce or simply lacks the courage. She cannot fix something so that there is no desire to leave (or does not want to, does not know how, etc.).

Emotionally, a woman considers herself already free, because her husband is essentially a stranger, an entry in her passport, no more. That is why, having changed, she does not feel remorse and remorse. “I deserve better” - this thought will surely become obvious to the spouse, even if it was not voiced, and then the marriage begins to burst at the seams.

Consequences of female infidelity

We all know from childhood that betrayal is low, ugly, a knife in the back, a blow to the stomach. But society invariably continues to treat male adultery much more loyally than female adultery. It would seem that the consequences of a woman's betrayal are the same as those of a man's betrayal.

However, the situation is actually more complicated - "as before" for a woman who has changed, alas, will never be. This man may consider that he simply “rested” on the side and return to the family, without even thinking about parting with his wife. A man, as a rule, is looking for sex on the side, and a woman is looking for a relationship, as mentioned above.

That is why, after betrayal, a situation arises for her to choose the lesser of two evils, since in any case she is “losing”. Should I tell my husband about cheating or not? Every woman who somehow values ​​​​marriage asks this question in the throes of her conscience. It would be wiser to keep silent about the misconduct: if you tell everything to your husband, and he even forgives you and you save the family, there will no longer be trust in it. In addition, this is a hard blow to the pride of a man - he will think that you do not appreciate him and that he is no longer the best for you if you prefer another man to him.

The fact that the soul will become easier by throwing off the stone of silence is an illusion, it will not become easier. You will hurt a loved one, and he will not be able to forget it, even if he tries, even if he promises never to remind. The slightest quarrel will provoke him to accusations against you, and you will have nothing to object to. In addition, you have lost the right to jealousy - you will try to turn any misconduct of your husband into the notorious “Do I really have the right to blame him for something ?!”.

Conclusion - if you regret the betrayal and want to save the marriage - it is better not to talk about what happened. Over time, the feeling of shame may be dulled, but your spouse's pride will not be trampled.

But if betrayal in your case was a turning point, and you want to leave your loved one, then you can lay it all out. But even if you have cooled off towards each other for a long time, it is better to leave first, freeing both yourself and him from an unpleasant conversation, without spitting into his soul in the end and saving the face of a decent person.

Whether you leave or not, cheating is a serious reason to change something in yourself and in your relationship. And it is always better to prevent than to cure: if you are overcome by thoughts of betrayal, it is better to figure out where the relationship has cracked. If you don’t want to lose them, solve the problem together with your person, without going “to the side”. If you no longer need this union, it will be more honest and correct to first part, and then start a new relationship.